10 things your spouse won’t tell you

Lots of surprising information here, such as:

"Nearly one in four Americans say honesty about money is more important to them than honesty about an affair."

http://www.marketwatch.com/story/10-things-your-spouse-wont-tell-you-2013-08-23/print?guid=AEC4CB50-0C1B-11E3-B473-00212876B3FC / spend more on my lover than I do on you 15% married Americans admit extramarital affair rate stayed relatively steady past couple decades General Social Survey tracks extramarital affairs married couples cheating spending hard earned hard-earned cash on their lovers your hubby’s husband mistress likely spend $125 on her holiday gift compared with just $60 on yours according survey AshleyMadison.com matchmaking site for married individuals looking for affairs women are less likely to buy pricey gifts for their lovers tend to be more cautious about leaving behind evidence affair, says AshleyMadison.com CEO Noel Biderman secret bank account Bernie Madoffs secret bank accounts 15% fifteen percent married people couples joint finances bank account they keep hidden from their partner 2011 National Endowment for Financial Education Forbes study survey reasons secret account innocent enough opened account before they were married haven’t gotten around to closing it yet others intentions far more nefarious married people sometimes like to keep secret bank accounts in the event of divorce pursue expensive hobbies other interests Tina Tessina, a psychotherapist based Long Beach California author Money Sex and Kids Stop Fighting About the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage more common with men may secretly spend on things like like gambling or drugs women keep secret stashes money gifts for the children going out with friends shopping for accessories for themselves home secret account secret-account holders beware most of the time the spouse finds out usually by accident opening a letter from the bank Lisa Helfend Meyer founder law firm Meyer Olson Lowy Meyers Los Angeles fallout can be serious including divorce separation harassment office spouse she remembers your birthday she even knows about the marital troubles your parents are having catch she’s not your wife one in three people has an office spouse colleague he or she is close to platonic survey career site Vault.com role serves working partners someone share office secrets exchange support companions on the job often relationship relationships completely harmless especially when individuals open spouse spouses source of immense jealousy partner thinks spouse sharing too much co-worker psychologist Elizabeth Lombardo author of Happy You Your Ultimate Prescription for Happiness women, it may be even worse study published 2010 journal Psychological Science both sexes experience jealousy emotional infidelity women tend to view it as an even worse betrayal than sexual infidelity pretend I never bought cost nearly 35 years Wilmington Syble Solomon educator who helps people deal with financial issues kept many purchases secret from her husband misled him about what they cost Solomon buy new blouse often hide her dresser for weeks husband asked when she finally wore it had it forever growing up mum mom Don’t tell your father not telling one in 10 people say misrepresented cost purchase partner American Express survey motivation avoid conflict partner spouse won’t approve item cost results lying disastrous emotionally financially advised multiple clients felt compelled file divorce discover discovering series secret purchases purchase earn more than you bread winner traditional role depend dependent satisfaction breadwinner /